THE TOP REASON SOME GIRLS WILL ‘NEVER’ MAKE IT IN MODELING.I have referred to this topic in previous blogs as to why girls are unsuccessful at reaching any level of ‘real’ success in modeling, and the overarching and critical factor beyond probably all others is that they fail due to not having 100% focus on the job.
Imagine setting out to race in the London Marathon. Experienced runners have their eyes set on the finishing line in their heads from the moment they are given the signal to begin their 26 mile journey.While at the same time they know that the distance becomes easier by focusing on just one mile at a time. They pace themselves steadily to reach the various landmarks along the way and by achieving those small wins it motivates them to run on to the next landmark, and the one after that, until at last they see their journeys end in the distance.But all the way along their route they remain focused on one objective alone, and that is by visualising themselves crossing that line, and nothing, absolutely nothing distracts their focus from the objective to finish and achieve.
In principal at least, the same focus should apply to models. But alas it by and large doesn’t because they allow themselves to become distracted far too easily. In the main they want the boyfriend(s) and the good life far more than they actually want the career. It’s the equivalent of entering the London Marathon and then seeing a supermarket somewhere along the route and remembering they haven’t yet got the food in for the evening meal and then breaking off from the run to do some shopping, and then stopping further along to stop admire one or two of the London landmarks along the way.
A book titled ‘Daily Rituals: How Artists Work, examines the work habits of over 150 of the greatest writers, artists and scientists.
What did they all have in common? A relentless pace of work.
Franz Kafka, frustrated with his living quarters and day job, wrote in a letter to Felice Bauer in 1912, “time is short, my strength is limited, the office is a horror, the apartment is noisy, and if a pleasant, Straightforward life is not possible then one must try to wriggle through by subtle maneuvers.”Kafka is one of 161 inspired—and inspiring—minds, among them, novelists, poets, playwrights, painters, philosophers, scientists, and mathematicians, who describe how they subtly maneuver the many \(self-inflicted\) obstacles and \(self-imposed\) daily rituals to get done the work they love to do, whether by waking early or staying up late; whether by self-medicating with doughnuts or bathing, drinking vast quantities of coffee, or taking long daily walks. Thomas Wolfe wrote standing up in the kitchen, the top of the refrigerator as his desk, dreamily fondling his “male configurations”… Jean-Paul Sartre chewed on Corydrane tablets \(a mix of amphetamine and aspirin\), ingesting ten times the recommended dose each day … Descartes liked to linger in bed, his mind wandering in sleep through woods, gardens, and enchanted palaces where he experienced “every pleasure imaginable.”
Here are: Anthony Trollope, who demanded of himself that each morning he write three thousand words \(250 words every fifteen minutes for three hours\) before going off to his job at the postal service, which he kept for thirty-three years during the writing of more than two dozen books … Karl Marx … Woody Allen … Agatha Christie … George Balanchine, who did most of his work while ironing … Leo Tolstoy … Charles Dickens … Pablo Picasso … George Gershwin, who, said his brother Ira, worked for twelve hours a day from late morning to midnight, composing at the piano in pajamas, bathrobe, and slippers …
Here also are the daily rituals of Charles Darwin, Andy Warhol, John Updike, Twyla Tharp, Benjamin Franklin, William Faulkner, Jane Austen, Anne Rice, and Igor Stravinsky \(he was never able to compose unless he was sure no one could hear him and, when blocked, stood on his head to “clear the brain”\). In - Managing With Power: Politics and Influence in Organizations, it is stated that. In a study of general managers in industry, John Kotter reported that many of them worked up to 10 hours per day. The ability and willingness to work grueling hours has characterised many powerful figures… Energy and strength provide many advantages to those seeking to build power. Indeed. Billionaire American business magnate, investor, and philanthropist Warren Buffet once said: “The difference between successful people and very successful people is that the very successful people say ‘no’ to almost everything.” And that’s what gives them the time to accomplish so much. In his book titled ‘Creativity’, Csikszentmihalyi makes note of the number of high achievers who declined his request to be in the book. Why did they say no? They were too busy with their own projects to help him with his. Achievement requires focus. And focus means saying “no” to a lot of distractions. Remember what I said about marathon runners back at the beginning of this piece? They have the finishing line visualised in their minds when they set off on their 26 mile run. But their focus all the way is on that one mile ahead of them. Well that is called ‘process’ and finishing the marathon is the ‘outcome’. Too may people spend 100% of their time solely focused on achieving their desired outcome. Which in reality rarely happens and creates a sense of disappointment, failure, and demotivates. Which in turn makes the outcome destination seem even further away, and generally speaking unreachable to the point where most people will actually just give up. So the process is an activity or series of activities which enable an outcome to be reached. Thus, the right goals, pursued in the right way, lead to positive outcomes. Setting an outcome goal Outcome goals are big. They’re the “I want to get better at X” or “I want to lose weight” type of goal. An outcome goal is the end result of what you want. It’s the big picture goal. While it’s critical to more adequately define the exact outcome you desire, you can achieve an outcome goal by firstly setting a “process goal.” How a process goal is different
Process goals are the daily mini-achievements that help you move toward your outcome goal. They are the goals that you absolutely CAN control, that you can guarantee reaching. These smaller goals are the building blocks of your outcome goals and they DO need specifics. The more specific, the better. You may have to hit several process goals to achieve your outcome goal. Here’s how these two goals work: Let’s take for example ‘Getting out of debt’. Outcome goal: pay off my credit card and one student loan this year Process goals: \*make extra money to apply to my debt \*budget double payments for these two debts \*use other savings strategies to find even more money to pay towards debt. Or. Becoming successful as a model. Outcome goal: Getting to the point where you are making a substantial living and enjoying a really good quality of life and financial freedom. Process goals: \* Not limiting yourself to certain types of work only. Open yourself up to take on whatever is available that achieves high earnings potential. \* update your levels of work constantly, get new work experiences and push yourself beyond those imprisoning comfort levels you have, and designing your portfolio in several different ways for different employers will also move you forwards. \* prepare for relevant casting and interview questions. \* success is contagious. So surround yourself with achievers and kick out the people who are holding you back through their own fears, insecurities and value judgments. It’s your life. Live it and screw what other think. If they have a problem with it, it isn’t yours to take ownership of. Putting it bluntly.It isn’t for you to worry about other people’s shit. Let them work out their own. That’s their role in their own lives.
If you don’t develop your process goals, hitting your outcome goal becomes a matter of fate or fortune. The reason those process goals are important is that you - never want to assume that you’ll always be in the same motivated state of mind, that you’ll always be on a goal high, that you’ll always remember why that outcome goal is important. As someone who engages a lot of new models, the reason that most drop out after a few weeks is because they want the outcome, but aren’t prepared to go through the processes to get there. These are the girls who would start off running the marathon and then become distracted somewhere along the way. Or they just don’t realise the amount of sheer bloody hard work they have to go through to get to reach their outcome. This business looks very different from the outside to what the reality of it really is. Once they start. When I engage a new model there is a relentless amount of work ahead totally many hundreds of hours over a 4-6 week period for me. As I always say, it isn’t the 10% of work in front of the camera which makes a model successful. It’s the 90% behind the camera which does. Without having the right back office support function of admin and marketing in place to drive a new model forwards, she ain’t going to be doing anything except sitting and waiting for something to happen; and getting bored and broke in the process. The processes are clear, and involve 16-20 hour days on the case. Getting the promotional material together - in terms of stills and video content. Constant social networking to drive traffic towards her and build a paying fan base to achieve 1000+ supporters/fans in 2 weeks, and to then keep them fed with information. It’s then about building the work foundations for other photographers and video producers to engage her and keeping them fed with information in order to achieve bookings, There is so much that goes on within this start-up period that it becomes a continual cycle of repeat processes to put her ahead of the hundreds of other girls. and a system of fast tracking, all the way. When I talk about being focused without distraction, everything else in my life takes a back seat. I don’t deal with friends or family, I ignore emails and messages for the most, and there is nothing whatsoever that will avert attention from my target. That is how focused, determined and passionate I am. When I set out to achieve something, nothing, absolutely nothing will get in the way of it until I reached my outcome. And then I will repeat the processes towards reaching my next outcome. What I am not going to do is put in this amount of effort into someone who is just going to sit back and let me get on with it while they have the easy life, and expect the results of my hard work to be handed to them on a plate while they party-on and want to be out with their friends all the time or have their attention diverted by some guy in their life. Worst still, someone who realises after three or four weeks the level of work involved in starting-up and decides that this business - worked properly, is going to impinge too much on their social life or relationship, and give up. Which sadly and all too often is the case. You have to be driven to succeed. This is not a heart business. It’s a head business. The heart will stop you from earning money. The head will enable you to earn as much money as you could possibly achieve. The girls who enter this business with a heart attitude more often than not end up collecting pretty pictures of themselves to appease their own vanity and make a few pounds for themselves along the way, if they are lucky. Most maybe have full time jobs and model on the side for a little bit of extra cash. This isn’t something I personally agree with because in my view they are basically stealing the wages of the full time models who are out there every day working their backsides off to pay their bills, because they have the guts to not have a cushioned life and a nice little salary to fall back on, and they have a need and a hunger for their work. Someone who has a nice full time salaried job does ‘not’ need to model. They lack the all empowering necessity and hunger for the life of a full time model. The type of model I would look to engage and develop is a ‘head’ model who absolutely 100% needs this work, and eats, sleeps and breathes it 24/7. Because it is their life and their passion and they do not do it half-heartedly or part time. I am a good manager and mentor. But I am also a tough one with high expectations who doesn’t suffer fools or time wasters. The reason being because from the moment I engage new talent it takes weeks and weeks of working hard and long hours to build, develop and properly: with am emphasis on the word “properly” promote a new model. It is nothing for me to work up to eighteen hours a day, every day - including Sundays and public holidays, to get it right, and I am obsessive compulsive about it. That to me is the series of processes which will deliver the desired outcome, and I have had models who have earned up to £1000 per week for 2-3 days work. In return I expect exactly the same level of commitment from the model. As far as I’m concerned it’s an equal partnership on a two way street, and from which we both benefit in the longer-term. And in that respect I want her absolutely focused with no distractions whatsoever. As far as I’m concerned when I have empowered and enabled the model to be earning a substantial amount of money and is continually successful in what she is doing, and has all the necessary skills and competencies to be able to sustain that, then fine. At this point she can afford to chill, take time out to enjoy her successes and have some fun. But until she reaches that point: which may take from a few weeks to a few months depending on how focused and on track she remains, it has to be a life of all work and no play, and listening and applying. The model opportunity is one that worked right can set her up financially for many years to come. Boyfriends are two a penny. They come, they go. This career is a one-shot deal. It’s the difference between being a one-hit wonder and being a consistent and sustainable chart/album successful artist. Because once you lose your grip of success in this career it’s all but over. They’ll be someone right behind you to readily jump in to your place and take it. There is absolutely no half-way measure. No give, and no compromise. To be really successful it’s all or nothing. I’ve referred to Jenna Jameson in a previous blog. This is a woman who came from nothing to building a multi-million dollar business in five years, and who then went on to sell it for what is believed to be an ‘eight’ figure sum. Impressive would be an understatement, and it was achieved through focused hard work and having a set of processes and a series of outcomes on a robust and progressive scale of successful building blocks. Jenna Jameson ran the marathon of this business with no distractions from where she wanted to be at the end of her journey. Without question she faced many challenges along the way. But kept on running, mile after mile until she reached that finishing line. Process goals let you sneak up on and ambush your outcome goals. Set them right, work on them every day with purpose, and you’ll hit that outcome goal.