2,000 years of history, from cave drawings to sculpture

Flagellation, especially of the self-inflicted kind, was popular throughout the Middle Ages. Flagellation could be carried out to rid one's self or another person of sin or in an effort to rid the world of evil. However, there were instances of whipping for pleasure.

In a 15th-century work, Italian philosopher Giovanni Pico della Mirandola comments upon one monk who couldn't enjoy intercourse unless he was lashed with a whip soaked in vinegar (above image).

BDSM, fetish, goth, dark, vampiric, blasphemous, edgy.

BDSM/fetish, depending on the levels can be intimidating as it is dangerous (at the higher levels).

Firstly. Forget whatever it is you've read or seen about '50 Shades of Grey'. Imaginative writing which doesn't reflect anything of 'real' value about the practices is probably the best and most balanced view of the entire story. On one side it can be described as a wholly abusive relationship which is entirely male dominated, and on other side pure fantasy. Those who do actually live the lifestyle dismiss '50 Shades' as being an unrepresentative joke.

You've seen it on sites, you've heard about it and you've even ached to try it with your partner. But what is this BDSM? 

Upon plain definition, the abbreviation expands to Bondage and Discipline, Sadism and Masochism - terms of erotic significance. BDSM essentially refers to the erotic pleasures of role play, discipline and masochistic submission. The idea is to explore the kinky pleasure behind the pain of flesh or moral degradation. BDSM is essentially an erotic tactic mostly used in sex as a part of foreplay.

In Mesopotamia, the fertility goddess Inanna would whip her subjects so they would become aroused. She adorned herself in jewels, riled the people into a dance of sexual frenzy, and cracked her whip until they started having intercourse. In Greek art, flagellation was common. The Greek biographer-turned-Roman Plutarch wrote about Spartan whipping competitions:

"The boys in Sparta were lashed with whips during the entire day at the altar of Artemis Orthia, frequently to the point of [expiration], and they bravely endured this, cheerful and proud, vying with one another for the supremacy as to which one of them could endure being beaten for the longer time and the greater number of blows. And the one who was victorious was held in especial repute."

Romans had the Tomb of The Flogging (or Whipping), a room where women whipped each other in celebration of Bacchus or Dionysus, the god of wine and fertility, and Juvenal mentions whips in his Satires.

According to the Kama Sutra, there are six appropriate places to strike a person with passion and four ways to do it:

"The place of striking with passion is the body, and on the body the special places are: The shoulders, the head, the space between the breasts, the back, the jaghana, or middle part of the body, the sides [...] striking is of four kinds: Striking with the back of the hand, striking with the fingers a little contracted, striking with the fist, striking with the open palm of the hand."

The lines between pain, pleasure, and passion are often intertwined given the Kama Sutra also mentions:

"Sometimes carried away by passion, a woman puts aside her natural temperament and acts the part of the man by slapping and beating him or play fighting with him she at the height of excitation becomes hard and fearless and dominates."

The concept of BDSM is far beyond the simple terminology discussed above. The idea of dominance and submission, sadism and masochism are not just sexual ideas, but an ardent lifestyle choice for some. To be able to understand the practice completely, one must decode what each component means as an erotic practice.

The term "BDSM" is first recorded in a Usenet posting from 1991, and is interpreted as a combination of the abbreviations B/D (Bondage and Discipline), D/s (Dominance and submission), and S/M (Sadism and Masochism). BDSM is now used as a catch-all phrase covering a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures. BDSM communities generally welcome anyone with a non-normative streak who identifies with the community; this may include cross-dressers, body modification enthusiasts, animal roleplayers, cosplay, rubber/leather fetishists, and others.

Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are often characterised by the participants taking on complementary, but unequal roles; thus, the idea of informed consent of both the partners becomes essential. The terms "submissive" and "dominant" are often used to distinguish these roles: the dominant partner ("dom") takes psychological control over the submissive ("sub"). The terms "top" and "bottom" are also used: the top is the instigator of an action while the bottom is the receiver of the action. 

Individuals who can change between top/dominant and bottom/submissive roles—whether from relationship to relationship or within a given relationship—are known as switches. The precise definition of roles and self-identification is a common subject of debate within the BDSM community itself.

Dominance and submission of power are an entirely different experience, and are not always psychologically associated with physical pain. Many BDSM activities involve no pain or humiliation, but just the exchange of power and control. During the activities, the participants may feel endorphin effects comparable to "runner's high" and to the afterglow of orgasm. The corresponding trance-like mental state is also called subspace, for the submissive, and domspace, for the dominant. Some use body stress to describe this physiological sensation. The experience of algolagnia is important, but is not the only motivation for many BDSM practitioners. The philosopher Edmund Burke called the sensation of pleasure derived from pain "sublime".  Couples engaging in consensual BDSM tend to show hormonal changes that indicate decreases in stress and increases in emotional bonding

I fell into this lifestyle myself through default of being a former male escort and having frustrated female clients book me for the sole purpose of facilitating what their male partners either had no confidence in doing, or felt they couldn't because of the "I love you and don't want to hurt you" line. For other male partners it was a matter of it not being a turn-on, and something which they simply found far too challenging from an emotional perspective, and looked down on the females in their lives with disdain for even suggesting such kinky activities.

All of which brings me to 'Herotica'.

As a 'Master Practitioner' of BDSM/fetish on a professional level I facilitate and empower the journey of many females. Both on their journey into BDSM/fetish, and ongoing thereafter. From novices to the very experienced I co-work with females to the highest standards of health and safety, and practice. Some privately and confidentially off-camera in terms of skills and knowledge through reality-tutorials, and others who are seeking to embark on their modeling career within this particular and specialist field of activity. 

My youngest pupils have been 18 and my oldest 55. However.  There are no limits to age whatsoever, providing always that the minimum requirement for age has to be eighteen, and age evidence is always asked for and recorded to legally verify this, which I keep on record together with signed consent forms. Apart from the minimum age requirement you can never be too young or too old as long as you are fit and healthy enough.

'Herotica' is in essence the empowering and enabling journey which each individual takes from novice/beginner stage right the way through to advanced levels of training and submission -

Novice/beginner levels -

Spanking, caning, flogging, tawse., toys, electro stimulation, *anal skills.

Orgasm (denial/pushed into with consent).

Bondage and restraint. 

Breath play, edge play etc.  

Medical. 

Advanced levels for the very experienced -

Nipple/vaginal/breast torture and needle play.

Waterboarding and water torture. 

Play hunts. 

Fantasy rape play. 

Abduction/hostage play. 

*There is an instructional video to support this activity and make it an orgasmic and enjoyable experience. NOT intimidating or painful.

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The exploration of deeper and darker worlds where taboo is normal, every day life for those who practice and those who enjoy the dressing up as part of their own individual style. We shoot in dungeon settings which bringing images to life, and to shock those who cannot resist their own inner dare, to view them.

Our training pages are HERE